Mýa has been serenading fans with love songs for more than two decades—but in her personal life, the Grammy-winning R&B star says she’s been on a very different kind of journey.
In a new conversation with Judi Love, the singer opened up about her powerful and transformative experience with celibacy, explaining how the choice to abstain from romantic relationships wasn’t intentional at first but ended up reshaping her entire outlook on love, life, and fulfillment.
“It wasn’t even a choice. It was just what it was,” Mýa shared. “And then you look up, ‘Oh, time has passed.’”
A Reset Button for the Soul
During her celibacy, Mýa poured herself into self-care, career growth, and passion projects. She shifted her focus inward, choosing to nourish her joy, improve her diet, eliminate negativity, and let go of destructive habits.
To stay grounded, she even created a life chart—a tool that mapped out which people and phases brought her success and which pulled her off course.
The process became, in her words, a reset button—a chance to wipe the slate clean and rebuild her sense of purpose from the inside out.
7 Years of Self-Discovery
In past interviews, Mýa revealed that her celibacy journey lasted a staggering seven years. During that time, she freed herself from the pressures of societal expectations—whether it was marriage, children, or validation through relationships.
“Love is beautiful,” she told Billboard. “But I think you must start with yourself.”
For Mýa, celibacy wasn’t about denying love, but about redefining it. She described the period as deeply spiritual, one that demanded self-awareness, discernment, and discipline.
By stepping back from dating, she says she found clarity and peace that allowed her to set her own standards for fulfillment—on her terms, not society’s.
The Challenge of Balancing Love & Career
Still, Mýa admits her demanding schedule has made maintaining a relationship difficult.
“If I have to be gone 95% of the time … I also can’t show up properly for my significant other,” she explained.
Her honesty resonated with fans, many of whom applauded her for admitting what countless women in high-pressure industries often face: the tug-of-war between love and ambition.
Love Isn’t Off the Table
Even though she’s embraced celibacy and spiritual growth, Mýa hasn’t completely closed the door on romance. For now, she finds joy in her extended family, pouring love into her nieces, nephews, and godchildren.
At the same time, she feels deeply called to focus on what she calls her personal “assignment”—continuing to create, inspire, and uplift through her artistry and humanitarian work.
Why Fans Are Inspired
Mýa’s revelations have sparked conversations across social media, with fans praising her for her honesty and courage.
- “Mýa is proof that you don’t have to rush into relationships to feel fulfilled.”
- “Seven years of celibacy? That’s discipline and self-love on another level.”
- “Love how she reminds us that choosing yourself isn’t selfish—it’s necessary.”
Her message feels especially relevant in a culture where many stars are defined by who they’re dating. Mýa’s story is about choosing self-love first—and fans are here for it.
The Bigger Picture
For Mýa, celibacy wasn’t about isolation—it was about transformation. She used the time to heal, reflect, and grow into a version of herself that’s more aligned with her values and vision.
Her journey is a reminder that in love, as in life, the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one with yourself.
Do you agree with Mýa that love should start with self-love first? Share your thoughts in the comments!
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